#18 “Being SHY at Black Rock City”

A response to an email question about Playa Shyness:

“I’m heading home for my third burn this year and I am wondering what advice you’d give me… I don’t know if shy is the right word but it’s the word I’m going to use.  I’m shy.  And one of the ways this affects me in BRC is that I don’t feel like walking into camps.  Even camps I know are there for everyone, I just feel like I’m an outsider, or like I don’t belong or am intruding on everyone’s happy time together.  So let’s say I came by Pink Heart and saw you and wanted to come over and say hi.  I’d feel like I would be interrupting whatever conversation you were having or I’d stand there awkwardly not wanting to bother you but wanting to say hi and I just don’t know how to not feel like I’m bothering people or like I’m a random stranger and not one of them.  Or even just going in to the camp and… just hanging out or flopping on a couch or whatnot.  It all feels so… I’m not sure.  Like I shouldn’t because I’m not part of something/the camp/the friendships.